Friday, March 08, 2013

Stiff-neck.... anyone?

This post is not a study of the medical problem stiff-neck nor a bible study of the term stiff-necked people just my lenten reflection...

In my recent attempts to read the bible, book by book i was doing exodus and still reading... in many places this stiff-necked people repeats itself ("Although this is a stiff-necked people, forgive our wickedness and our sin, and take us as your inheritance." Exodus 34.9 ) grabbing my attention, as i'm am prune to muscle stiffness in the neck, courtesy bike riding on bad road conditions and looking at the laptop. Now the pain is excruciating, besides you go totally paralysed. You cannot lie down on your own or get up from the bed. Even lying straight is not possible you can only lie on your sides. Sitting up to have food is also very difficult. Shaking your head left to right, IMPOSSIBLE. You need help for everything! This i ve experienced not once but several times in the past 7-8 yrs.

Then why is God calling the Isralities a stiff-necked people? "I have seen these people," the LORD said to Moses, "and they are a stiff-necked people. Exodus 32:9. These people behaved like they had stiff-neck and refused to look at what is God doing...come on He sends plague after plague, not one but ten and then when the Egyptians were in pursuit He waged a war for them and finally opened a sea for them to walk dry shod to the other side. He gave food (manna), he gave them water from a rock, Then they complained against no non-veg to eat.. Then He sends Quails in the night. He guards them with a pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night, gave them healing when they were bitten by snakes. But still failed to look at what God is doing for them. They still make idols of gold to worship.  

Whenever the bible passage is read in church or at home and when the word Israel features I put myself there, simply because Israel is a chosen people. And this same Israel is called stiff-necked and so am I, when I refuse to understand that God has a better way of doing things and its the best for me and to give thanks to all the goodness shown to me. So my prayer will be to turn my neck and head and  ''Keep your eyes on the Lord and view everyone else through His eyes''- Terry Modica
 
P.S. This post was started two years ago, since neck pain and bike riding and laptop viewing and not fully read the bible till date still holds good im posting it.

Women's Day, Everyday! Anybody game?

Why do we celebrate womens day? Honestly I don't know. Why the flowers, chocolate and gifts and all the fuss. Now, people don't get me wrong, I did not intend to start on such a cynical note, but i guess it sets the tone for the post. Logically it doesn't seem to fit. In the western world, people dont live with immediate families after they are 18 or even younger. So only time they get together is for christmas or thanksgiving or if somebody is terminally ill! I could be wrong, but thats my understanding. So these are days like father's day mother's day or valentine's day (yes even couples live apart, they re called travelling couple!!! husband lives in one city and wife lives in another, even if they have no children, why i specifically say that is bcos here our mothers stay in one city for the children's education sake) are celebrated so that they get another chance to be together and foster their relationship. Then again this is largely promoted for business. Card sales, flowers, gifts, expensive dinners, clothes, spa treatment etc etc.My hubby once told me that Santa Claus is dressed in RED bcoz for the promotion of Coco Cola. This is re inforced in the recent Coke ad "naan romba crazy" where a guy hands a bottle of coke to a Santa.

Anyway back to the post. Now atleast Father and Mother and Valentine are different as all human beings dont get to father or mother a child and there are celibate men and women of God who dont have a valentine. But celebrating womanhood, the woman in you etc, did we choose to be born as a woman? Traditional Jewish men at the beginning of the daily morning prayers say: "Blessed are you, Lord, our God, ruler the universe who has not created me a woman". I dont know if they still do. God destined half the crowd to be male and other half to be female and they both compliment each other, because God is both male and female (remember we are created in His image). So it is the order of life and if life has to continue they have to be together as one body. Then how can you celebrate only one part of the body and leave the other. This is one argument.

Again there are so many who wish women thro email, msg and fb but still continue to treat them like BS. I have so many examples that this post will run out of page. A friend of mine got married came to Chennai, now the only person she knows in chennai is her husband and this is the first ever time she is coming to this part of the country. This husband takes an on-site project and leaves her alone in Chennai. Later does she comes to know that he was not interested in the wedding and got married under compulsion and now settled with his girl friend in a foreign country! This i read in an internet news couple divorced because the wife gave birth to a deformed child! Whose fault is that now? How many daughter-in-laws are still ill-treated for not giving birth to a male child. Another friend got married and went to the high tech city but they were remotely operated by the father in law in down south TN. Once due to non compliance this girl was made to kneel and apologise to all village elders to save the marriage! what did the husband do? nothing. Now mind you, all this happened to well educated post graduate women, who are also employed! You can imagine the plight of other not so educated women who get beaten up by the drunk husband and robbed of their precious earnings. Like I said it will go on and on...

So I would like to conclude that treat us like human beings, as your equals ALWAYS. Thats like celebrating women's day everyday. How many of us are game for that? I guess half the crowd is gone... So we will stop taking the easy way out of celebrating one day and trashing us for the rest of the year. How we celebrate it is an entirely different post but just a few tid bits.  Make time for them, it's giving a part of your life, read somewhere so it's also very costly. Call your mom to enquire if she had her lunch, play with your daughter/son, baby sit for your friend, cook for you wife, run errands for your grandma. You want to appreciate the women in your life, give them your time.





Friday, February 22, 2013

How my Saturdays changed...

Last Saturday when I was waiting for my hubby to arrive home for lunch, I saw this child cycling away, back and forth in our campus now this is clearly an outsider, maybe there is no place near his home so he's playing about in the hot sunny afternoon when everyone is asleep.

Just then it teleported me to my childhood days, Saturdays meant fun and lots of playtime. we used to play the whole afternoons and during summer vacations the whole days, we would only go home to have water or loo breaks and of course to dress up scratches and wounds! Ice boys, seven stones, carrom on the corridor, cards on the terrace and many more....

A little up the ladder, Saturdays where cycling days, we would rent by the hour and sometimes wait for two hours to get that cycle. 

The beginning of my teen years was spent in the race to have long thick hair and spent my time in oiling and other such treatment and long baths...

When in tenth and twelveth class Saturdays meant special class in school... phew!

In my college days Saturdays meant washing, starching and ironing clothes. Matching the salwars with accessories so that during the week you dont waste much time. Also choir practise in the evenings...

Again when I started to work Saturdays were intially half working days and then turned full working days....
I think this is when i started to hate saturdays...

Then when i got married, Saturdays were cleaning days (after a year into my marriage i left the job)... wash the bathrooms, change sheets, curtains also cook full meals.

Saturdays are supposedly a day of rest as God rested on that day after creation. 

Today when i look at my typical saturday there is no time for play, no time for grooming, no time for studying/reading, no time for rest either! We still have choir practise on saturday evenings the only difference is i dont get to sing, the childrens choir that we run have their practise at our place. OMG what has happened to my Saturdays? I wanted to give the post the title how my Saturdays have evolved, but that would be an understatement, so i stuck the above title.

It's time I re-invent my Saturdays!