Friday, March 08, 2013

Stiff-neck.... anyone?

This post is not a study of the medical problem stiff-neck nor a bible study of the term stiff-necked people just my lenten reflection...

In my recent attempts to read the bible, book by book i was doing exodus and still reading... in many places this stiff-necked people repeats itself ("Although this is a stiff-necked people, forgive our wickedness and our sin, and take us as your inheritance." Exodus 34.9 ) grabbing my attention, as i'm am prune to muscle stiffness in the neck, courtesy bike riding on bad road conditions and looking at the laptop. Now the pain is excruciating, besides you go totally paralysed. You cannot lie down on your own or get up from the bed. Even lying straight is not possible you can only lie on your sides. Sitting up to have food is also very difficult. Shaking your head left to right, IMPOSSIBLE. You need help for everything! This i ve experienced not once but several times in the past 7-8 yrs.

Then why is God calling the Isralities a stiff-necked people? "I have seen these people," the LORD said to Moses, "and they are a stiff-necked people. Exodus 32:9. These people behaved like they had stiff-neck and refused to look at what is God doing...come on He sends plague after plague, not one but ten and then when the Egyptians were in pursuit He waged a war for them and finally opened a sea for them to walk dry shod to the other side. He gave food (manna), he gave them water from a rock, Then they complained against no non-veg to eat.. Then He sends Quails in the night. He guards them with a pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night, gave them healing when they were bitten by snakes. But still failed to look at what God is doing for them. They still make idols of gold to worship.  

Whenever the bible passage is read in church or at home and when the word Israel features I put myself there, simply because Israel is a chosen people. And this same Israel is called stiff-necked and so am I, when I refuse to understand that God has a better way of doing things and its the best for me and to give thanks to all the goodness shown to me. So my prayer will be to turn my neck and head and  ''Keep your eyes on the Lord and view everyone else through His eyes''- Terry Modica
P.S. This post was started two years ago, since neck pain and bike riding and laptop viewing and not fully read the bible till date still holds good im posting it.

Women's Day, Everyday! Anybody game?

Why do we celebrate womens day? Honestly I don't know. Why the flowers, chocolate and gifts and all the fuss. Now, people don't get me wrong, I did not intend to start on such a cynical note, but i guess it sets the tone for the post. Logically it doesn't seem to fit. In the western world, people dont live with immediate families after they are 18 or even younger. So only time they get together is for christmas or thanksgiving or if somebody is terminally ill! I could be wrong, but thats my understanding. So these are days like father's day mother's day or valentine's day (yes even couples live apart, they re called travelling couple!!! husband lives in one city and wife lives in another, even if they have no children, why i specifically say that is bcos here our mothers stay in one city for the children's education sake) are celebrated so that they get another chance to be together and foster their relationship. Then again this is largely promoted for business. Card sales, flowers, gifts, expensive dinners, clothes, spa treatment etc etc.My hubby once told me that Santa Claus is dressed in RED bcoz for the promotion of Coco Cola. This is re inforced in the recent Coke ad "naan romba crazy" where a guy hands a bottle of coke to a Santa.

Anyway back to the post. Now atleast Father and Mother and Valentine are different as all human beings dont get to father or mother a child and there are celibate men and women of God who dont have a valentine. But celebrating womanhood, the woman in you etc, did we choose to be born as a woman? Traditional Jewish men at the beginning of the daily morning prayers say: "Blessed are you, Lord, our God, ruler the universe who has not created me a woman". I dont know if they still do. God destined half the crowd to be male and other half to be female and they both compliment each other, because God is both male and female (remember we are created in His image). So it is the order of life and if life has to continue they have to be together as one body. Then how can you celebrate only one part of the body and leave the other. This is one argument.

Again there are so many who wish women thro email, msg and fb but still continue to treat them like BS. I have so many examples that this post will run out of page. A friend of mine got married came to Chennai, now the only person she knows in chennai is her husband and this is the first ever time she is coming to this part of the country. This husband takes an on-site project and leaves her alone in Chennai. Later does she comes to know that he was not interested in the wedding and got married under compulsion and now settled with his girl friend in a foreign country! This i read in an internet news couple divorced because the wife gave birth to a deformed child! Whose fault is that now? How many daughter-in-laws are still ill-treated for not giving birth to a male child. Another friend got married and went to the high tech city but they were remotely operated by the father in law in down south TN. Once due to non compliance this girl was made to kneel and apologise to all village elders to save the marriage! what did the husband do? nothing. Now mind you, all this happened to well educated post graduate women, who are also employed! You can imagine the plight of other not so educated women who get beaten up by the drunk husband and robbed of their precious earnings. Like I said it will go on and on...

So I would like to conclude that treat us like human beings, as your equals ALWAYS. Thats like celebrating women's day everyday. How many of us are game for that? I guess half the crowd is gone... So we will stop taking the easy way out of celebrating one day and trashing us for the rest of the year. How we celebrate it is an entirely different post but just a few tid bits.  Make time for them, it's giving a part of your life, read somewhere so it's also very costly. Call your mom to enquire if she had her lunch, play with your daughter/son, baby sit for your friend, cook for you wife, run errands for your grandma. You want to appreciate the women in your life, give them your time.